At Kennywood Park on the outskirts of Pittsburgh, is an old wooden roller coaster, which is famous lovers from around the world. Instead of starting the trip with the rise of a Clickity, slope of 95 feet clackity Thunderbolt naturally falling into a ravine. If you do not know what to expect, do not go back to breathe for the entire lap. After the initial shock, the brief respite during the next hill is completely undermined by the forecast for the next hop. I feel almostMake sure that all those who coined the term emotional roller coaster ride of the Thunderbolt had in mind.
The element of surprise a lot of power feeds our emotional response to each case. Once in motion, we are like the driver of the Thunderbolt, which is struggling to compose himself. Our minds race and our body automatically starts difficult to produce and respond to natural chemicals, clear thinking. Emotional distance and time are needed before they can qualifyLooking back and realize that it is not as bad as it seemed.
I learned this lesson from a little girl named Iris. Early in my career, I lived with a young family in New York. On a warm summer evening when we were in a walk, Iris suddenly seized with an attack of frenzied hysteria. Stabbing sobs, he explained that he had lost his ring.
Iris, when he discovered that the ring was gone, was on an emotional version of the Thunderbolt. All natural reactions to stress,The fear, pain and loss come into play. It took the intervention at their considerably out of the loop. His father took it and held it tightly. His mother stroked his head and murmured words of comfort. There were promises of a new ring, candy and ice cream and trips to the park is.
For adults, the value of the ring was negligible. On a practical level, it was a useless piece of plastic that had a Gumball machine to come during the day. Iris, on the contrary, it ismeant much more. Imagine the excitement that must have felt when he turned the knob of the gumball machines and their enthusiasm when this treasure was of great beauty in her palm. Imagine also, as you put it, was beautiful and special.
Iris was only four years. She could not have enough distance to recognize that the ring was just a piece of plastic, one of hundreds in the machine, which would still be there the next day. He never would be ableunderstand that the loss that his link was really insignificant to some of the others who then compared the experience of life. Now that she is a grown woman with children, I doubt he even remembers the fateful day when this terrible tragedy.
Oh, we were able to learn this life lesson! This story is not only a beautiful story of a sweet little girl dressed in apron with ribbons in her hair. This is an essential truth. Nothing is as bad asseems to be. Real tragedies happen every day and people are able to survive, sometimes miraculously unharmed. We admire the stories of survival and success in the afterlife, shaking events such as hurricanes, earthquakes and tornadoes. The more it is likely that a period not at work, to survive a fight with a family member or a scratch on our new car?
It all boils down to perspective. For adults, the prospect is a matter of choice. Shattering events are an unavoidable part of life. But weare often as simple as a 4 year old girl traumatized by the loss of a gumball machine ring.
Our reactions in these circumstances can be devastating. People have jobs, friendships ended, wide open contracts, separated from spouses and even an obligation to adapt later repented of violence to stop the emotions. The consequences of these actions are generally achieved much more than the event. The majority of injuries suffered in an earthquake, for example, are not thingsfall of man, but the result of panic, people run away from perceived danger.
If we realize, however, feel just a reaction to an event or circumstance, we are now some distance between our reaction and the event itself. This distance, either in time or space for the expression, allows us to benefit more easily from the perspective of hindsight.
Thomas Jefferson said: "When angry, count to ten before you speak, if very angry, count to 100 .." TheWorks great, if you experience anger, frustration, fear, shame or pain. If we move away from the clock and our immediate response, we may find that things are not as bad as they seem, and we might be a more appropriate response.
Here are some tips to get some emotional distance when adversity strikes:
Count to ten. Take Jefferson's advice to heart. If you count to ten, you need two things at once. You take aMoment before you react and focus your attention on something trivial and insignificant. In relation to your situation seems less serious consequences.
Remember that everything is ok again. These are the words we use to comfort others, why do not we console ourselves with them. Things can not be equal, but they will be all good.
Do not be put again to experience the event in your mind. Mulling over an event is nourished and develops a sense and respondof emotion is the real danger.
Go to the bathroom. It may not be able to ignore an event, but for the most immediate reaction is not necessary. Just go into another room may be sufficient to trigger a change in perspective.
Distract you for a while '. If you have more than a few moments to compose yourself and do things in perspective, take a book or magazine. Most played on your computer. Brush your teeth. Take the trash. Clean your office. Prayer or. Meditation Going to the gym. Take a walk in the park, the situation could still be there, but then you will be in a better opinion, deal with it.
Think on the bright side. There are advantages and disadvantages, everything in life. When we are depressed about something, we are focusing on the negative aspects. Try to think of professionals. If you hate your job, the reasons you think. If someone is angry, remember his good qualities. If the pain to be reminded, goodTimes.
Look for the humor of the situation. The careers of many comics is like pointing out stupid we are when we say to ourselves and the life we are too serious.
The amazing thing about that rollercoaster in Pittsburgh, that if you know what to expect, is a very exciting ride. People come from all over the world to live. Since we know that life is full of ups and downs, we run better if you simply enjoy the ride?
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